EMBRACE DISCOMFORT: HOW STEPPING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE CAN INCREASE YOUR CONFIDENCE AND BUILD RESILIENCE

Let’s be honest—few of us enjoy being uncomfortable. But here’s the thing: we should make a conscious effort to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. There are numerous benefits to doing so.

Pushing ourselves into discomfort increases our tolerance for it, boosts our confidence and courage, and strengthens our resilience. It also helps us appreciate the moments of comfort we often take for granted.

I can personally attest to the power of embracing discomfort. This past year, I intentionally placed myself in uncomfortable situations, particularly while starting my coaching business.

It required doing things that made me anxious and fearful—posting on Facebook, creating videos, hosting workshops. While these activities are still challenging for me, I can confidently say they no longer rattle me the way they used to.

One person who’s inspired me in this journey is Mel Robbins. Many of her podcast episodes resonate with me, and I often think about hosting a podcast or doing more public speaking in the future. However, I used to assume that Mel was born with confidence and courage.

That was until I listened to her podcast on confidence. I learned that, in fact, she used to wear turtleneck sweaters and scarves when speaking publicly to hide the hives caused by her anxiety.

I was surprised to hear this.

I wasn’t happy that Mel’s anxiety had once been so overwhelming, but it made me feel better to realize that even someone as successful as her wasn’t born with confidence. She explained that confidence is something she had to work hard to develop. Her secret? Repeatedly doing things that made her uncomfortable. This not only helped her become more competent but also built her confidence over time.

So how do we start embracing discomfort? It doesn’t have to be a huge leap. I recommend starting small. I wouldn’t suggest skydiving or moving into a tiny home right away! Instead, try a new activity or order a dish at a restaurant you’ve never tried before. You could even make a list of five things you’ve been wanting to try but have been too anxious or fearful to do.

Can you commit to trying one new thing a week—or if you’re feeling adventurous, one a day? I’d be happy to help you with this!

It’s important to remember that vulnerability can be challenging for most of us, so give yourself grace along the way.

If you don’t feel ready to tackle discomfort alone, ask a friend to join you. I do this all the time! Take a few deep breaths, recite a mantra like “I got this” or “I do hard things,” and focus on yourself. Theodore Roosevelt was right when he said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”

Here are a few tips for getting more comfortable with being uncomfortable:

1. Start Small – Begin with low-stakes challenges, like trying a new hobby, activity, or dish at a restaurant. It’s about taking small steps outside your comfort zone that gradually build your tolerance for discomfort.

2. Create a List of “Scary” Tasks – Write down five things you’ve been wanting to try but have avoided due to fear. Set a goal to do one a week, or if you’re feeling bold, one a day. This can include anything from public speaking to trying a new fitness routine.

3. Embrace Vulnerability – Understand that vulnerability is part of growth. If you find certain tasks too intimidating to do alone, recruit a friend for support. This can help ease the discomfort and make the process more enjoyable.

4. Practice Positive Self-Talk – Reassure yourself by saying affirmations like, “I got this” or “I can handle this.” Self-talk is a powerful tool to help calm anxiety and build confidence before stepping into uncomfortable situations.

5. Avoid Comparing Yourself – Remember, everyone’s journey is different. Focus on your own growth and progress instead of comparing yourself to others. As Theodore Roosevelt wisely said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”

   
   

By consistently choosing to face discomfort, we build strength, confidence, and resilience. So, what’s one uncomfortable thing you’re going to try this week? Let’s make discomfort our ally in the pursuit of personal growth!